We recently came to an opportunity of sorts wherein either way we decided to go, we would be following (more than likely) the Lord's will for us. One way provides more financial security and involves patience, the other provides accomplishment and involves trust. Both are solid options. When my husband sought wise counsel, there was an exact 50/50 divide between the opinions of those he spoke with. Both options hold positive and negative factors and are just about equally matched. This made for a difficult decision.
I learn more and more everyday about my role as a wife; a lesson I believe the Lord knows will be life-long. In this case, I did a lot of waiting and praying. I assisted Harris in gathering information about the potential options. I prayed alongside him for the Lord to give him peace about the right choice. I knew, however, that the decision was ultimately Harris' as the leader of our relationship and I knew it would be tough. When we got together at the end of the day, I listened (difficult as it sometimes is to just sit and listen). I could tell that he had been wrestling with the decision. Once I heard him out, I told him the decision I felt a peace about, and we both agreed on what was right for us.
Sometimes I feel as though I need to have the mindset of Harris and I as a family. When people make decisions, they weigh the options for their family, and that is exactly what we had to do. In my (crazy) mind, I feel like when I identify us as family, we have more weight than if I were to identify us as "Harris and I". Yeah, I don't know why, but that's how I think. We are not a big "family" like you'd think of the term, but we are one and we have to make decision that work for us.
I've come to the realization that whatever mindset you have to have (mine being thinking of us as a family) in order to do what is best for you and yours, is good! Protect what you have, make wise choices for that, and support each other through it. I'm proud of the leader Harris is, and I'm honored to be able to support him as well as to be a part of our little family.
"Blessed is the man- Psalm 1:1-6who walks not in the counsel of the wicked,nor stands in the way of sinners,nor sits in the seat of scoffers;but his delight is in the law of the Lord,and on his law he meditates day and night.He is like a treeplanted by streams of waterthat yields its fruit in its season,and its leaf does not wither.In all that he does, he prospers."