One thing that I constantly "struggle with" is having patience (I put that in quotes because more often than not, I simply live in my impatience rather than struggle to do something about it). Typical scenario: driving home in traffic. I leave at the same time everybody else does. I hate waiting. I hate sitting there while people (who obviously don't have the same urgencies I do..) delay at green lights, are too cautious to merge, drive 10 under because that's just the culture of driving up here, and commit other such annoying postponements.
Sometimes I feel justified because I am mostly impatient with things that take up my time for relationship. I usually get impatient with people or things that take me away from MY people or things. I feel like my impatience is warranted because I am "only trying to get back home to my husband" or "only trying to get my errands out of the way to be able to chat with my girlfriend"! Well, as it of course turns out, there's something somewhere in the Bible that talks about love being patient.
Not only is there something somewhere out there that states that love is patient.. but that's the FIRST word that is used to describe love in that particular definition! You've heard it before: 1 Corinthians 13:4
Well, I have felt bad lately about how impatient I have been, mostly because my impatience has caused me to look like a mean girl. That's what impatience is... meanness. I deceive myself by saying that I'm not mean, I just have really important things to get to and don't have time to waste! I think that John Piper says it better than I do (HAH.. of course he does):"Love is patient and kind; it does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant..."
Impatience is a fruit of selfishness. And selfish is simply an ugly, accurate description of my fallen, depraved nature, which wants all of creation to serve me. Love is patient because patience is a dying to selfishness. It is the belief that in this dying we will find greater joy in the joy of the ones we are seeking to love: God and neighbors.Yikes. I should work on that. I can "talk away" my sins justifying them all day long, but the reality is that I'm being selfish and not loving others like Christ called me to do. I'll never be able to do that perfectly, but the Bible leads me in the right direction by listing the first step: be patient.
[and no, I searched, but there is no clause that says, "be patient except for when people are slow drivers.. then cut them off" - sorry]