Friday, May 17, 2013

favorite things.

Everybody has that something that they just LOVE. It's one of their "things".

Most people probably have a handful of favorites that everyone who is invested in their life would know of or be familiar with. I have come, in my super-wise age of 24 (sarcasm... I'm not good at it, so I wanted to clarify here), to truly appreciate when someone has a favorite thing. What a sweet gift the Lord gave us, to have preferences and interests that are unique to the individual He created.

How cool that each of us can pick out certain aspects about the world around us that bring us a feeling that we enjoy. We don't deserve to have wonderful things, but we do, and most of us get to enjoy those things on enough of a regular basis to have them remain in the "favorite" category.

My sweet mama has a favorite thing.. one of many.. but it's still a favorite. Roses.


She has always taken pictures of roses. 



When I was younger I thought, "why would anyone want SO many 
pictures of roses, especially ones that grow in your own yard?" 


Now, I find it SO precious. You can see the complete joy she gets from these roses just through the lens. She knows ALL the names of the roses and she can tell you anything there is to know about them. How wonderful. 

The coolest thing is, if you allow them, someone who gets SO much joy from a favorite thing can transmit that joy to you through the sharing of their love. I learned that lesson with my husband as well. He LOVES airplanes and aviation. He tells me with the brightest eyes, all about the things he learns in school and the new planes that come to visit the maintenance shop. It's so exciting!

Never knew I could love roses and airplanes as much as I do. I guess it's the joy I see in their eyes that makes me feel so wonderful inside.

What's your favorite thing?

Share it with someone and transmit the joy!

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Monday, May 13, 2013

heard.

I went to the doctor this morning for my yearly (well, this is my first appointment since seeing a pediatrician) check-up. I have been to many other doctors, eye doctors, dentists, medical express doctors, etc., but this time was different.

My doctor really invested in me during the short time we had together; he asked really good questions and really listened when I talked. I felt great when I left!

There's nothing wrong with me and, as a healthy 24-year-old, fortunately I did not have much to chat about health-wise. I had a few questions here and there, but overall I just felt well-cared for.

It's amazing the impact of feeling heard.

The doctor likely did not, in the craziness of his day, have a ton of time for me. His to-do list was long out the door and I did not even have to confirm that with him to know it as a fact. Despite all of that, he slowed down enough to sit and talk with me and listen to me. I was heard.

We need to bring that important element into our everyday interactions with others. How great it would be, when a friend or coworker comes up to us to chat or ask a question or tell a story, if we would just stop long enough to make them leave feeling heard?

In the fast-paced culture we live in, rarely do you leave any function, event, or conversation feeling truly heard. I think that's why many people gather in coffee shops and small, intimate restaurants for lunch dates. As you sit there with only a warm-something to drink and a tiny table between you and the other person you're meeting with, the distractions are minimized and the conversation and listening is maximized.

Since coffee dates, lunches, and intimate gatherings are not always in abundance on our day-planners, I would challendge us all to stop where we are just to make someone feel heard. Who knows, you'll probably get a lot more out of the conversation if you're asking clarifying questions, listening with a tuned-in ear, and negating other distractions. What a blessing!

Anyways, thank you doc for listening to me. I wasn't even sick, but I feel much better!

Tuesday, May 7, 2013

steal some time.

I'm sure I'm not the only one who has this problem: I cannot always find time to sit and enjoy time reading my Bible, praying, or sitting in God's presence.

Here's my schedule:
wake up, get ready, drive to work, work, go to the gym, come home, clean house, study/write paper for grad school, cook dinner, laundry/random cleaning, harris gets home (late), spend a bit of time together, study again, go to sleep... repeat.

My daily routine does not leave much room for sitting at a coffee shop for an hour or so to sip on a latte and read through my Bible (not to mention that, because of the season of life we're in, we cannot afford for me to get a $4 latte every time I want to spend time with Jesus).


I sometimes get lost in the idea that it has to be like that; that I have to run off to a very 'romantic' spot and set apart a big chunk of time to get really deep and immersed in God's Word and in His presence. I get into the pattern of thinking that if I cannot spend at least a solid uninterrupted hour reading my Bible then I cannot get the time I need with the Lord.

It's like my relationship with Harris. To make us thrive as a couple, we need to carve out time to spend together and invest in our relationship. We need an occasional date where we splurge and enjoy a long, romantic evening together. We need to connect deeply and share intimately. We do not, however, always have time or money to go on nice, romantic dates where we spend hours together. 

We also greatly need those random times where we joke, flirt, and connect in a more regular, less extravagant way. We share stories in between dinner and studying. We laugh and joke as we walk out the door on our way to work. We text during lunch break.

Those times may not seem like they're super fulfilling and creating strong, deep, connections... but they are. It's the same in my relationship with the Lord. I can read a passage at work. I can say a heartfelt prayer on my walk to the mailbox. I can talk with the Lord as I'm folding laundry or right before I crack open my Research Methods & Statistics book.

All of these little moments are creating a relationship. If I cease to find little moments for lack of time to indulge in the big moments, I will lose the relationship all together.

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