Monday, February 24, 2014
This is a view from our ride home yesterday. What a sky, right??
The reason I love long car rides is because of the uninterrupted time it creates for me and my husband to talk about life, liberty, and the pursuit of not just happiness, but joy. We discuss, we disclose, we discover, we divulge, and I love every minute of it. [Harris does too, except for when conversations are interrupted with an occasional helpful comment or suggestive gasp from the side-seat driver]. There are basically no distractions and we have got all the time in the world, 7.5 hours to be exact.
When we were dating, Harris told me he loved me for the first time in the car. We have had our most intense conversations dealing with grief and tears and brokenness and raw real life in the car. We have also laughed hard and told a good story or two in the car. That's "our place".
For us, a long car ride is the perfect time for us to do a thorough "check-in" on our marriage, our direction, and our overall well-being as individuals and as a family. [I highly recommend an occasional discussion of this sort to all married couples.] Sometimes it is so easy to think I know how things are going, or we're too distracted to even really notice if something is off or needs an adjustment. We check.
As Harris and I think through and pray through our direction as a family, we have to come together and be intentional. My prayer is that our life would not ever become 'automatic'. There are aspects that are routine, but that's not what I'm talking about. I never want to default. Even if our season is as it is now: training, education, working, and paying off loans, I want to do so with intention and purpose. The car is where Harris and I can pursue that intentionality together.
Thankfully, God has carved out the car as our "place" to do all of that. Romantic, huh?
Where is your place?
The porch swing, your bed, a favorite couch in the living room, a park bench, the kitchen table?
The best part about your place is that, "For where two [or three] are gathered in my name, there am I among them." (Matthew 18:20)
I pray that you would find a place to have these discussions, and make that place special.
Heck, your master bath or a walk-in closet could be as private as it gets in your house... awesome. Nobody has to know that you have your best conversations as one of you sits by boots and the other under the dress pants. It's your "place".